Self-Compassion in Breastfeeding: No Shame in No Freezer Stash By Cam Hurtado
There seems to be a widespread notion that having a freezer full of breastmilk determines the success of parenthood. Social Media can definitely skew parent’s views by glorifying having a full deep freezer of milk. However, the pressure to build up that stash can be overwhelming. Having a surplus of frozen milk does not determine your ability to nurture your baby effectively and parents shouldn’t be alarmed when they find themselves without a stash in the freezer. While it is convenient to have a stash of milk in the freezer for emergencies, returning to work, or for your own mental ease; the quality of breastmilk is far more important than the quantity of stored milk. Breast milk adapts to the needs of your child as it contains a blend of nutrients critical to your baby’s health, even an ounce given to your baby matters.
Nursing is a dynamic process that operates on a supply-and-demand basis.The more a baby nurses, the more milk the lactating body produces. The human body does a great job of regulating its production levels. If a parent/birthing person is continuously breastfeeding on demand, they may produce varying amounts of milk. Production is unique to the person, and some parents might need or choose to supplement. Every parent's breastfeeding experience is special and individualized, and offering whatever breast milk you can provide is beneficial to your baby.
Research shows that breastfed babies have lower risk of asthma, childhood leukemia, childhood obesity, ear infections, eczema, diarrhea and vomiting, respiratory infections, sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS) and Type 2 diabetes later in life. Any amount of milk you have to offer matters, focusing on comparisons can detract from the joy found in one's own journey. If a freezer stash isn’t possible for you, that is okay!
The pressure to build and maintain a freezer stash can lead to unnecessary stress for the birthing parent navigating the challenges of parenthood. Stress can negatively impact milk production, creating a cycle where worrying about milk supply actually reduces it. Instead, parents can focus on affirming themselves and that they are doing a great job, and developing flexible feeding routines that accommodate their circumstances . Whether it's breastfeeding or pumping on demand, practicing paced bottle feeding, or seeking support from a lactation consultant, there are various ways to ensure that babies receive the nourishment they require without solely relying on stored milk.
The human body has incredible capabilities, but it's important to acknowledge that there are many versions of success, and not every parent's body may produce milk, or they may produce just enough. or need some assistance with donor human milk, or formula. Your breastfeeding experience is valid and meaningful, regardless of your milk production. Trust in your own experience, knowing that you're providing the best care for your baby in whatever way works for you and your family. The Breastfeeding Center is here to support you each step of the way. Interested in working with a lactation consultant? Book a consult here or text us at 202.293.5182 for more information.
Cam Hurtado, intern (She/Her)
Cam is a student at GWU who is passionate about the intersection of technology and breastfeeding! As an engineering student, she is always seeking out new ways to enhance the nursing journey for moms everywhere. Joining the Breastfeeding Center team has allowed her to continue to explore this interest in a welcoming environment where moms can feel supported, understood, and empowered. Beyond her love for tech, Cam is also a firm believer in the power of community, something she values at the Center. Being able to see moms supporting one another through this new and exciting journey, has caused her to want to explore a career in biotechnology to continue to guide parents through one of life’s biggest transitions. Cam envisions remaining an active part of this community, making connections and offering her support to parents on their journey through parenthood!